I Want Him to Know HOW Much I've Been Hurt - Affairs In Marriage

How can I really let my cheating husband know how much he has hurt me? Does he really understand that his infidelity hurt me deeply? Now that the affair is over, does he think things can just return to normal? How can I be sure that he won't brush my feelings aside? If he cheated on me in the first place, doesn't that mean he won't listen to me now?

Affairs in marriage are some of the most deeply painful things a woman can suffer through. But does your cheating husband feel that same pain? It is not likely that he does. Thus, it is necessary for you to let him know, otherwise he will think his actions were without consequence.

It is said that affairs in marriage occur most frequently in marriages where communication is lacking. If this is so, it may be difficult for you to even bring up the matter with your husband. However, it is absolutely necessary that you tell him how you feel.

Before confronting him, write down everything that you have felt or thought concerning his infidelity. Read over what you have written several times and, if necessary, re-write it. Once you have expressed in writing all the feelings you have, try to organize them into several important pain points that you really want him to know about. Memorize these points and keep them clear in your head.

Now, schedule a time to meet with him. This will help you keep the conditions under your control and, therefore, keep you calm. Any time an emotional topic is being discussed, people are prone to lose hold of their reason and become overwhelmed by the opposing individual. This is why organizing your feelings in writing and scheduling a time to meet at a specific place is very important.

When you meet, tell him that you want to talk without being interrupted. Then, as clearly and as quickly as you can, deliver the points. If he does not understand, repeat yourself. No matter what, do not let him leave without knowing how much he has hurt you.