Thursday, April 21, 2011

To Hold or To Let Go



What will be your reaction if you will catch your partner having an affair with other woman or man? Are going to cry, freak out or attack them with a dagger? Are you going to file a divorce or give him or her another chance? You do not know what you are going to react especially if you are not in an actual scenario.

In reality, marriage is not all about happiness. It is normal if sometimes your relationship with your spouse goes vicissitudes, shaky, and on the rocks. It is also normal if there is a point that you cannot sleep because you argue on different issues. This means that your relationship as husbands and wives is moving for the next level of maturity. It is quiet good indication if you handle and deal the problem and solve it together.

Everybody knows that there is no perfect marriage. The fact, that couples are both strangers, growing in different races and different upbringings; have their own way of perceiving in different aspects. However, if both are willing to work and curb this issue then, their relationship may surpass whatever marital trials may come in.

For some instance, it is also understandable if your reaction is quite different especially if you will discover that your partner is having an affair with someone else. It is not easy to handle this issue. It is heart-breaking situation that sometimes you cannot accept the disloyalty done by your husband or wife. Several questions rushing to your mind "why he or she did that?" "Do I need to file a divorce because of what he/she did to me?" "It is useless if I will still hold on, I may still find myself often doubting!"

Although it is not easy to accept things like that, but never decide while you are in pain or in the middle of your anger. It is advisable for the couples who underwent this kind of situation in opting marriage counseling. In here, you will learn some ways on what to do. It divorce is the answer or on how to stop divorce.

In addition, both couples should participate in counseling. If your partner is willing to participate to work out your marriage or willing to have open and honest conversation regarding the issue then, there is a big chance of saving your marriage. However, if you disloyal partner will not participate and do not want to discuss with the problem or even showing any signs of reconciling (like for example: a heartfelt apologies, accept his/her fault, regrets that he or she cheats on you) your marriage, then it is the time to decide and file for a divorce. At least you did your part before deciding to cut the bond.

It best to hold a relationship if your partner is willing to help you and holding it too, but if you are alone doing your part, it is better to let go and get out from the problem, for as well to move on and start your own life.



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