Would You Forgive A Cheating Partner?

Relationships evolve into many things and often they grow to become something entirely different for people get involved with in the first place. The honeymoon period ends and complacency sets in. People become lazy and take for granted what their union is all about. Sex is a vital component of a relationship. It is the manifestation of the mental and spiritual connections between partners. At least it should be. But what happens when that flame is extinguished? What happens when someone cheats?

Infidelity can be a result of many different issues. The ultimate betrayal though is trust. Without trust there is no love, there is no respect and self-respect, and there is no relationship. Cheating is a reflection of how one values their relationships. It tells people they have little self worth and self discipline. That the most important people in their life aren't worthy of the common decent of even being told they're unhappy? Would you take someone back who cheated in you? Could you trust them again?

I know there will be many opinions on infidelity, but there is really no reason for it. But could you forgive it? I know there are those who have taken partners back. But for most reasons it's not because they truly want to do the right thing. It's usually the product of fear. Fear of breaking up the family. Fear for the children (They'll get over it too!), fear of losing money and property. It's never really the same. Enduring such humiliation for the mere sake of money and things is ridiculous. Staying for the sake of your children set a poor example for them to emulate. Teach them to be proud, not a push over.

Cheating is a selfish act of lust. Without little concern about who it destroys in the process. It's humiliating to the family as a whole, not to mention the other spouse. Once the act is exposed, the union is over. Love is so deep an emotion and easily flung around with little meaning. Don't fall for the words, the tears, and the excuses. There are none. A person with real bravado would have either talked about their unhappiness or simply ended the relationship before things got that far. There is no excuse for cheating. Ever.

If you have been a victim of infidelity, keep your head up high. Although the cheater will try and make it seem like it was your fault, everyone has to take responsibility for their actions. Everyone has a choice to make, and some simply make poor choices. If they cheat once, they'll cheat again. If you take them back they'll lose respect for you. You should be standing up for yourself and kicking them to the curb. Tough decisions I know, but ones that will make you stronger.

Remember, cheating is a reflection of how someone truly feels about their relationship. If their hearts were truly in it they wouldn't do it. It's as simple as that. If they want their cake they can have it, but let them have it with someone else, or stay single. Sex is too easy to find. A true partner through life is a diamond in the rough. A couple that plays together... stays together.