How To Feel Attractive and Desirable Again After Rejection

Do you know rejection can leave permanent emotional scars that leave one feeling unattractive, undesirable, unworthy, defective, inadequate and unmotivated to get back into a relationship? Do you know that one can readily and permanently erase/delete the negative memories of past rejections thereby re-establishing a positive self image, boosting self esteem and self worth and making one feel whole, complete and attractive once again? So how does one accomplish this you ask?

Negative memories of rejection become stored in the subconscious mind and add to what we call our personality structure. In other words the sum total of such memories determine how one feels, thinks and perceives themselves. The unfortunate part about this is that past events are just that, in the past, and therefore cannot be changed.

That leaves one feeling captive to and helplessly controlled by a life history that has defined who and what they are. Now what if one could re-write, or at least erase, part of or all of that history then how might that make you feel? Well, although the thought of doing that seems far fetched I'm sure that if you imagined such a thing were possible it might leave you feeling hopeful, happy and excited!

A decade ago as research into this very issue was being undertaken most therapists were operating under the belief that erasing the past was impossible. This led them to settle for less effective solutions to dealing with past negative memories that were derailing individuals' lives. Some individuals however felt this to be an unsatisfying answer because it left many feeling trapped in self perceptions that significantly undermined even blocked future relationship happiness.

Out of this frustration came a push to understand why memories remain stored in an individual. The results of this were extremely productive and helped us learn that the major factor responsible for the storage of memories was buried in the beliefs we have about the memories themselves.

Many of these beliefs were so deeply entrenched that few even considered them "beliefs" rather simply "immutable facts" that should never be questioned. Well that meant that they were never brought into question for a long period of time and that closed the door to new and useful insights into how memories might be erased. What's more many of these beliefs are so implicit in our thinking that few even know they harbour them. In other words they are stored subconsciously.

During this new phase of research it was learned that by simply making these beliefs conscious i.e. making an individual "aware" of them a significant and powerful step forward could be taken towards erasing the memories themselves. This led to the generation of a new coaching process that has since allowed individuals erase negative memories of rejection rapidly and permanently.

To describe how this feels is essentially impossible because unless and until one has the experience they will have no reference point upon which to compare it. In other words it is a "new" experience! Let me say however that it leaves one feeling like the negative event(s) never took place. With that comes wonderful feelings of freedom, joy, self esteem, self worth, radiance, attractiveness, resilience, confidence, inner emotional stability, self assuredness and much more.