How to Let Go of an Ex Girlfriend Who Cheated on You

When you go into a relationship with anyone you don't go in expecting it to break up, and you certainly don't expect your partner to cheat on you. The more that you get to know your partner, the more of yourself you invest into the relationship. When you find out about the cheating it can be a devastating blow, especially if you thought that you had a good relationship. For whatever reason you decided that the relationship couldn't work so you parted company. That should have been the end of the story except that you can't let her go. So just how can your let go of your ex girlfriend?

If you are still struggling with this then I would imagine that you have come of the emotional rollercoaster that break-ups fling you on to. You need to have people around you such as family and friends, people who you can talk to and who are on your side. It might be a good idea if you went to stay with someone as a change of scenery can help to distract your mind.

In order to let go of your ex girlfriend you are going to have to re-take control of your mind. The mind can be a truly amazing thing, but when you are having to deal with something like betrayal it will keep replaying what has happened again and again. Ultimately you are the only person who can say enough, but it will take time to get there.

You need to build yourself a full and active life. Reconnect with all your interests and find new one, go out with your friends, do as much as you can so that your mind gets distracted by the negative thoughts of your ex, and concentrates on the positive side of the new life that you are building. If you don't already do so it can be a good idea to take up a sport, or go to the gym. Hard physical exercise gives you're a chance to not only vent your frustrations, but releases feel good endorphins in your brain.

During the working week you have plenty to do, you only have to fill in your evenings. The weekends can prove problematic because of all the free time, when you can think and brood. If you can find interests, such as sport teams where you can mix with people then your mind will have a constantly changing supply of stimulus, and it won't have the time to conjure up images of your ex.

There is the potential for problems on your daily commute, with all that empty time it can give your mind a free rein. In order to distract your mind, and this depends on your mode of transport, either listen to a talking book or read a book. When you are focusing on the story your mind is creating the world in which that story is set, it is using its powers of imagination to help you to follow the story rather than to brood. I would recommend fantasy fiction such as the works by Feist, Eddings or the inimitable Terry Pratchett. If your mind is trying to conjure up images of a different reality, then it's not going to be interested in your ex.

It's possible that you will see images or hear things that remind you of your ex. In order to combat that you need to have a ready image in your mind that makes your ex look ridiculous. In Harry Potter and The Prisoner of Azkaban, the children are taught to confront their worst fears by making the images look ridiculous, and with the magic word, RIDICULOUS. That technique might be drawn from a story but it's an effective one.

The most difficult thing that you will have to do is to forgive your ex. WHAT, I hear you cry! I'm not saying that you forgive her for what she has done to you, I'm saying that if you forgive her, you can close the door on this episode and keep it firmly in the past. If you can forgive, the you can let go of it, and if you can let go of it then you can move into the future without any baggage.

So, how can you get rid of that ex girlfriend who cheated on you? By building a life that is full of variety and fresh stimulus for your mind. As you rebuild your life you will come to realize that you are having a much better life without her. It won't be easy but there will come the time when you start thinking about her less-and-less, and while you will never forget her, she will no longer hold any power over your mind.