Is There a Safe Way to Tell Your Wife You Cheated Without Her Wanting to Kill You?

If you fear your wife is going to kill when you tell her you had an affair cheating on her was the wrong thing to do. If you are having problems in your marriage going outside of it isn't going to solve problems within the marriage.

"Your wife might want to kill you for an affair cheating on her but the worse she can do is divorce you (You will be damn lucky if she forgives you)."

Below are some ideas to help you lesson the blow of telling your wife about your extramarital affair cheating on her. How ever you tell her, your wife will not be the same person she was before the affair cheating on her so don't get mad or frustrated if she doesn't respond.

"By cheating on your wife you destroyed all those years of trust you built-up between each other."

1. If you haven't already, end the affair. Walk away. Tell the other woman not to contact you anymore. You can also tell the other woman you are going to be recommit yourself to your wife and the marriage.

2. When you want to tell your wife about the affair cheating on her, take her somewhere you can be alone. If you have kids arrange for them to be left with an adult relative or friend you trust. You want somewhere you both can sit down and not be interrupted. This will set the mood of seriousness making her ready to listen.

3. Before you tell your wife about the affair cheating on her, tell her how you were feeling about what was going on in the marriage before the affair. Don't create things just be really honest about your feelings. Were you feeling trapped, ignored, or were your needs not being met? This is how you get her to expect what you have to say next.

4. Now with great care tell her you had the affair cheating on her. Let her know how the affair made you feel towards the end (that is an important part of your confessor). Also let her know the affair is over and your unconditionally sorry for the way things turned out. Don't be alarmed how she reacts to all this.

5. Finally give her a few days to absorb the affair cheating on her. She is going to be very upset with you and probably won't want to look at you and that is alright. After a week of letting her cool off you can try to see if she wants to work things out with you or not. Offer to go to counseling and mean it. This will assure her a little you are serious about working things out.

That is about as safe as it gets telling your wife you cheated without having her wanting to kill you. It is a matter of thinking things out before you tell her; unlike the little thought you put into things before you had the affair cheating on your wife. (Do me a favor now, go to the blog listed below and let me know how things worked out for you and your wife!)