Marriage and Infidelity - Making the Hard Decision to Stay or Go

Surviving an infidelity in your marriage leads to a roller coaster of emotions. On one hand you might feel that you can't live with your husband anymore, and on the other hand, it may be hard to let go of the relationship. One way or another, you have to make this difficult decision and either stick with your marriage or leave.

It is advisable to make a decision when you are calm. Think of all the pros and cons of each option before you move ahead.

It is okay to feel betrayed and angry but you need to move on

It is a natural feeling to harbor resentment after you discover that your husband is having an affair. Do not try to deny your emotions. Healing will only come after acceptance. Take it one step at a time. Talking to other family members, discussing it with your spouse and a therapist can help sort out the emotions inside you so you can then make a rational decision.

Do not let others make the decision for you

Your decision to stay or go is solely yours and whatever you decide should be based on what you want. You might find that your friends or relatives will advise you on your next course of action. Although, you might be relieved after talking to them, when it comes to making a decision and surviving the marriage and infidelity successfully, you have to be the one to decide.

It is alright to forgive your husband and stay in the relationship

Many people do not understand when a woman decides to forgive and stay in the relationship after their husband has cheated. For them anger and bitterness supersedes all other emotions. Keep in mind they do not share the same history with your man. If you love him and want to give your husband another chance, you have the right to do so. Sometimes, forgiving and moving on is a better option and will lead to a stronger bond between you and your husband.

Take your time to decide

You might not be in a position to make a rational decision a few days after you've discover that your husband is cheating on you. Surviving a marriage and infidelity does not mean making a hasty decision. Take some time off from your marriage and away from your husband. This will help evaluate your feelings for him and also give him some time to realize his mistake.

Whether you decide to stay or leave the relationship, you should be at peace with this decision. If you make a hasty decision of leaving, you might regret it later on. Similarly, if you decide to stay in the relationship but still harbor resentment, the marriage may fall apart at a later time. Surviving a marriage and infidelity means being at peace with the decision, whichever way you decide to go.