Tuesday, April 12, 2011

Why Do Spouses Cheat? The Answer May Surprise You



The number of cheating spouses is on the rise. People who decide to tie the knot cannot expect the marriage to be perfectly happy. There sure are trials that would challenge each of them throughout the relationship. In many cases, the spouse may or may not be caught cheating, but by the fact that they cheated, that would bring danger to their relationship. The big question is why would they do such things when they are still attached to their partners? They could have filed for a legal separation to be able to engage into a new relationship.

Many infidelity experts would answer these questions with "there could have been something wrong with your marriage." It may not be caused by only one of you, but both. The most common reason why people are drawn to "cheating" is when the marriage meets some difficulties. Once a problem exists in a relationship, the partner may refuse to admit that they have problems. At that point, he or she may look for somebody who could sympathize with him or her. They will need new people to get advice from and that relationship may start something that could lead into an affair.

Spouses normally have needs from each other, may it be physical, emotional, or intellectual. Once these needs are not met or are not given by the other party, their attention may be drawn to somebody who can provide them that certain need. In some cases, cheats occur because one party is very attached to believing that he or she will find the perfect soul mate. People who put their fate in romance to soul mates may often go in and out of relationships. They don't usually land into long relationships until they feel they found their soul mates.

Another practical reason why people tend to engage in extramarital relationships is the fact that the world and everybody has become impulsive to everything. People have become impulsive buyers, impulsive eaters, and impulsive lovers. This may be unfortunate to hear but this is actually happening in reality. People want to get what they want in an instant and this includes affairs.

However painful it might be to feel cheated in a relationship, there are still ways you can actually save your relationship. Everybody deserves second chances and your partner is not an exemption. If both parties would try their best to make things work between them then there would be a great chance of a new but stronger relationship. It's thought the number of cheating spouses would then decline.



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