After The Affair - How To Cope With Feeling Really Sick

Many a romantic novelist and indeed a number of medical experts do believe that when you fall in love, the process can produce certain physical side effects in your body. The novelists say that somebody who has recently fallen in love feels very different and wonders whether they are sick, before realizing that it's just an enchanting byproduct of their new association. Some of those doctors might indeed tie a particular ailment to these recognizable emotions and the power of the human mind to affect our everyday being.

Let's imagine for a second that this is all true. Now, just imagine what happens to your entire being when you discover that your partner has been unfaithful. Those of us who've been through this kind of emotional situation can concur that it can literally hit you like a ton of bricks. You simply do not know what to do and physically feel as if you cannot cope with your daily business.

The initial shock may take a while to wear off, but what do you do then. How are you going to cope with the future? Basically, what happens after the affair? As you begin to cope with all these questions you get hit with shockwave after shockwave. It's almost like the aftershocks that we hear all about following a major earthquake, someplace.

One of the first questions that you ask yourself is how on earth this could happen to you. You believe that things were going along very well and still felt you were both in love, independently and equally. You also want to know how long it has been going on behind your back. This is a time when you cannot believe that you could be so blind to this kind of activity. Were you walking around with your eyes closed?

There are so many different questions, all falling within the same vein. A lot of this is introspective and in truth over analysis is not going to help as you try to approach life after the affair. You have to let a lot of the questions lay as they are, as you will probably never find a satisfactory answer to them, at least one which will help relieve the pain, at any rate.

Life after the affair is certainly going to be different, but this disaster does not have to be terminal. There are ways to work through it and to save your relationship, just so long as there is a spark of hope for it in the long run.

As they say, you might think that you were sick but it was only the fact that you had just fallen in love. Expect that you will really feel under the weather when you discover the presence of an affair in your relationship, sadly. Yet, one of the ways to make yourself feel better is to take a deep breath and resolve to try to repair everything, to get you both back to the position you were once in.