Communication - The Key To Saving A Marriage After An Affair

The main reason that many couples fail at saving a marriage after an affair is a lack of meaningful communication. Something about the act of infidelity seems to short-circuit the lines of communication that existed before, and let's face it, most of the time the communication before hand wasn't that great. That could be part of the problem we're in this mess! Here's a breakdown for both parts of the couple after an affair:

The Cheater: The person who was unfaithful is ashamed of what happened; and what do we do when we're ashamed? We cower. We hide. Ever try and have a conversation with someone who is hiding? It's not very productive, we can't even find them! Even if the cheating is undiscovered the shame still persists. They know what they did, and most of the time they suspect that their partner does to. Occasionally the person who is shamed seems to defy this logic, and instead overcompensates with gifts and attention, but this is deceptive, in reality they are hiding in plain sight. Like a chameleon scared of a predator. How can they possible save relationship after infidelity?

The Cheated On: They don't even know if they want to save marriage after cheating. How could their partner do this to them? If you're cheated on you will most likely react. Not that there's anything wrong with reacting! But reacting without thinking and figuring out what it is you really want can derail your efforts to save your marriage. Communicating in anger will only serve to continue to shame your partner further, and could end up with a result you hadn't intended.

So how do you communicate? I'm guessing that if you honestly answer that question the answer will be you have no idea. Saving a marriage after an affair is a long, yet rewarding task. Whether you are the cheater or the one cheated on, you have your work cut out for you. But you can give yourself an advantage. Following a program specifically crafted for people just like you by experts in the area of communication and relationships can focus your efforts to learn vital communication skills in ways you could never do yourself.

I wholeheartedly hope that you will take this to heart and seek the help you need to be successful at saving your marriage after an affair. I get all sorts of joy when I find out a couple has done what it takes to remain together against all odds.