Tuesday, April 12, 2011

How to Rebuild Trust After an Affair - 5 Ways to Regain Your Spouse Trust Today!



This article may be harsh so if you are looking for someone to coddle or cuddle you and tell you "softly" how "what you did is common and therefore not something you need to stress yourself too much about", then now is as good a time as any to click on the back button and run along to those people who do not really care about your marital well being or your life.

I, on the other hand, really care about you and your spouse that is why I have written this article. You need to come to terms with the fact of the matter which is this; you are the guilty party and you desire to regain your partner's trust. Due to this fact, you should be prepared to do whatever it takes (within reason, of course) to get that trust back.

If you are ready to rebuild that trust again after that shameful affair, read on to discover 5 ways to do so...

Number 1 - Make Sure You Are Not Lying to Yourself

I will ask you a question outright; "Are you in love with that person whom you had the affair with?" Take a moment and answer that question because it is a key ingredient where any affair is concerned.

If you feel that love is what took you outside your marriage, then do not waste your spouse' time and yours by trying to mend a marriage that will only bring you future grief. Because, if you are in love with that man / woman, you will find a way to return back to him / her sometime in the nearest future.

Number 2 - Do Not Play the Blame Game

Now that you are ready to proceed with regaining your husband's or your wife's trust, you should know that casting blame on everyone else but yourself will not cut it.

You are to blame, period. Whether the reason for going for the "other" person was because he / she was stunning, nice, respectful, rich, muscular, or whatever, is not really the business of your spouse. The point and fact is: You did DECIDE to have that affair and that alone makes it your fault.

Number 3 - Disconnect All Ties with the Other Woman / Man

To further enhance your chances at regaining that trust you so desire, you need to break off all ties with the person you had the affair with. Get a court injunction if you have to. Get another job. Move to another city. Make it happen!

Number 4 - You Cannot Dictate Your Spouse' Recovery Schedule

Your partner is grieving because you have hurt him / her. The last thing you want to be right now is impatient. You have no right (legal, moral or otherwise) to expect that one week later all should have be restored.

Number 5 - Try Not to Cause Future Problems

Find out why you strayed in the first place and stay away from situations that may cause you to have an affair again.



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