Tuesday, April 19, 2011

How to Survive Marital Infidelity



Marital infidelity, is the worst thing that could happen in a marriage. It has the potential of tearing the marital relationship apart and can inflict deep mental agony on the cheated spouse. The affected spouse is often distressed, depressed and attempt to ruin their own lives. But, care should be taken to stay clear of negativity, considering the life ahead. Time should be taken to think and decide what's best and then act. So, what are the options before the cheated wife? Though many opt to divorce, aren't there are other constructive options to sustain the bonding? Is getting separated the only way forward? Certainly Not!

An amicable discussion and an effort from both ends could resolve the conflict and renovate the bonding. Marriage is bond that's made of love and the commitment taken is for life. So when the vow is broken, there's hurt and dismay. Resolving the problem and getting back to normal life can be difficult. Here are few steps that might be helpful for you:

Open communication: Both the partners should indulge in an at-length discussion about the issues that led to the affair. Husband should acknowledge that he has cheated his wife and avoid justifying his actions. Justifying or giving silly excuses is never going to work and will create more problems. It's more favorable if the husband steps into the wife's shoes while discussing. The communication should be an open and honest one.

Rebuilding the trust: It is not going to be easy to rebuild the trust between two partners post affair. Marital infidelity, often results in permanent loss of faith on the erring partner. The healing process may take some time and the hurt partner should be given considerable time, to overcome the shock and grief. The cheating partner should be ready to give heed to the other person's views and understand the turbulent time they're undergoing. At the same time, the guilty husband should express his emotions and feelings to his wife during the discussion.

Promise and Keep It Up!: If you break your wife's trust, she is not going to believe you easily. So try to persuade her and promise never to cheat her. Remember promising is only one half of it while the most important half is fulfilling it!

Marital Infidelity can be dealt with and solved amicably without ending up in divorce, by using the simple tips mentioned above.



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