How You Can Survive An Emotional Affair

Often, an emotional affair can be more devastating for the affected partner than a physical one. Because of one thing. Uncertainty. The inability to be absolutely certain that the emotional affair didn't (or won't if it's still continuing) go to the next level.

The good news is that although it will be difficult, as all things worthwhile are, it is possible. In this article I'll explain how you can survive an emotional affair and heal yourself. And, if you want it, your relationship.

The first step to survival and healing is understanding the reason for your partner's attraction to the other person.The primary reason is a simple one to understand. Admiration. Something we all need and want. To whatever degree. If your partner doesn't feel sufficiently admired and complimented at home - why would they not seek it elsewhere?

So, the first thing you should be doing is reflecting on your behaviour toward your significant other. Are you giving less admiration/compliments than you were at the start of your relationship?

Assess your actions. If you can honestly say that your "admiration level" hasn't changed, than there is another question you must ask yourself : "What is your partner getting there, that he's not getting from you?"

More often than not, this doesn't mean there's something lacking in you. But simply that your partner enjoys being admired by someone of the opposite sex, outside of his relationship with you.

Often the partner in the emotional affair feels there's nothing wrong with this "additional attention." That it's completely normal. If this is your partner's stance, you need to let him know that it is not "normal" for you. And that you're not just being "paranoid." He must understand that it IS a problem. One that is causing you pain. If he can grasp and accept that, you're on the road to surviving the emotional affair and healing from it.

I can't stress this point enough. It's absolutely crucial that your partner "takes on board" the fact that it's not just YOUR problem. It's also, and primarily - HIS PROBLEM. Turning to someone else, other than you, for support, encouragement and advice, obviously becomes the common problem. One that you BOTH must work to seek a solution to.

This will require something that's easy to find but often, hard to put into action - Commitment. A resolve to solider on, ploughing through all the obstacles, no matter how difficult. To ultimately arrive at the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow - a renewed relationship.

Finally - Don't go it alone! Taking advantage of free Professional help will ensure success in surviving your emotional affair.