Surviving the Affair and Taking the First Steps to Re-Establish the Trust

Surviving the affair and taking the first steps to re-establish the trust may not be easy but necessary for women after they discover that their husband is having an affair. Women go through a lot of emotions, including shame, guilt and betrayal when discovering that their spouse is involved with someone else. They immediately start thinking about divorce and other ways to get back at their partner creating a lot of negative energy around them.

Surviving the affair does not mean that you should end the marriage immediately. There are many ways in which you can rebuild your relationships and slowly start rebuilding your marriage. You might not feel that way initially, but with time and going through some of these articles you will realize that there are ways in which your relationship can be saved.

It's important not suppress your emotions. Let them express themselves. This causes the release of negative energy and then you can concentrate on other constructive methods of surviving the affair and re-building the trust in your relationship. Never take a decision in a fit of anger. A decision to end the marriage is entirely yours but it should be taken when you are in a calm rational state of mind to make that decision.

Most women do not realize that there are ways to fix a marriage after an affair. Believe it or not, the affair can end up strengthening your marriage and bring you and your spouse closer than ever before. Although forgiveness does not come easy after you have been through this ordeal, it is the path to take when trying to come to terms with your pain. Those who survive the affair and emerge stronger can move on in their lives and start enjoying a more fulfilling and meaningful relationship.

Here are some steps that you can take to survive the affair and re-establish the trust.

• Stop thinking about the other woman and comparing yourself to her and start focusing on your self-esteem


• Come to terms with your emotions and stop denying your negative feelings


• Accept the present scenario and learn a new way of communicating with your husband


• Talk to a close friend about how you feel and give vent to your emotions


• Know that it is not your fault that the affair happened but be open to working on your marital issues


• Forgive and accept that your husband is not perfect and is willing to repair your marriage

This last step is the key to surviving an affair. Unless you forgive your spouse and move forward, there is danger that your life may get stuck at that moment and you will never able to look at the brighter side of things.

Forgiveness leads to healing. Unless you deal with all your emotions, it is difficult to regain your confidence. You have to start believing that it is possible to save your marriage despite the affair and let go of all negative thoughts.

Successfully surviving an affair means taking the first steps to re-establish the trust and rebuilding your relationship towards a more fulfilling life.