Infidelity - The Role Of Sexual Relationship

Talking about sexual relationships may be considered taboo by some people but we cannot run away from the fact that sexual relationship is a sustaining feature of a marriage. It is the only thing that distinguishes your relationship with your spouse from your other relationships. Infidelity is often to do with sexual contact. If your spouse has friendship with another person of your sex, you may still dislike it but if there is no sexual intercourse between your spouse and the other person, you may not view that kind of an infidelity as a serious problem. Thus, it is clear that sexual intercourse plays a major role in an infidelity situation.

Sexual factors can be a cause for an affair. If your spouse is not happy with the sexual relationship they have with you, they may seek an extra-marital relationship. I am not justifying such a relationship but pointing to the factors that can cause this aberration. You may think that you have a good sexual life but your spouse may not think so. This is because the sexual needs and expectations of individuals may differ. Sometimes people discuss their expectations and both partners will understand the needs of each other and arrive at an unwritten and unspoken understanding about the sexual aspects of a relationship. Where such open discussions do not take place either because discussing sex may be considered a taboo or because one may not be willing to reveal one's sexual preferences for fear of alienating the other, some kind of a disharmony will prevail.

If you are an observant person, you can sense the feelings of your partner and can goad them to reveal their minds. If they speak out, it will facilitate better understanding leading to a more harmonious relationship.

There are instances where infidelity may occur because of a person's excessive lust. There are some people who look for the excitement of making love to more than one person. If your partner's affair has arisen on this account, there is nothing that you can do. The best course open to you will be to find a way to get separated. But in other cases, there is always some course open to you.

Once you come to know of the act of infidelity of your partner, you should confront them. By choosing to act in a mature way without displaying anger, you will be able to find out what prompted your partner to resort to this kind of cheating. In many cases, dialogue can bring about the desired effect. It may not happen at one stroke but after a few sessions, you will be able to win over your partner by pulling them out of the affair.