Restore Trust After An Affair - Is It Possible?

Many couples that have been through infidelity want to restore trust after an affair but find this to be the most difficult part of rebuilding their marriage. More specifically, the injured spouse, the one that was cheated on, almost always finds it impossible to trust his or her partner. This is one of the most difficult parts because the partner has already shown that they were untrustworthy in the past. How can they be trusted again?

Unfortunately, without learning how to trust again, it will be impossible to rebuild the marriage. This is often where most attempts fail. Fortunately, it does not have to be this way. The injured spouse often thinks that trust is an all or nothing proposition. After all, they trusted their mate to remain faithful and they didn't, what else is left. This all or nothing proposition is detrimental to any hope of reconciliation. People can, and do learn to trust one another again and eventually live to enjoy happier and more fulfilling marriages than they did before the infidelity.

Before this level of trust can be achieved, it is important to approach the issue in an incremental fashion. Build the trust section by section, until eventually it is a whole. Trust has several different levels and meanings. One may not trust their spouse when he comes home late at night saying that he had a late meeting. This is understandable. But can they be trusted to pick up the kids from school? Do you believe them hen they tell you that they made the bank deposit that you asked them to make? Trust can be seen at many different levels.

Do you trust your physical safety to your spouse? We seldom think about these things but they are very important to a relationship. We can see from these examples that trust is not an all or nothing proposition. It is nuanced and if you ever want to have any chance at repairing your marriage, you must approach it step by step. The goal of this article is to make you see that even after infidelity; there are certain things, important things that you still trust your partner with. Hopefully by seeing the issue in this light, you can start to work towards the areas where your trust is shattered. Those will come with time and effort, but if you build on the ideas that I have presented above, you at least have a chance at making it work.

Most couples cannot get past this stage of attempting to repair their relationship after an affair. You can build on these areas of trust and at least have a chance at restoring the trust, and eventually turning your marriage into the happy and fulfilling relationship you deserve.