Surviving Infidelity - How To Deal With Your Jealous Emotions

After finding out about your spouse's infidelity, do you constantly feel the rage of jealousy ready to kick in at the drop of a hat? Does your heart start to race and blood start to boil every time your in a situation where your spouse has an encounter with a member of the opposite sex, no matter how innocent it may seem? In this article, you are going to learn how to deal with these jealous emotions and how to stop being overwhelmed with them.

Lets face it, your likely still coping with images that continue to haunt your mind about your spouse's affair and thoughts of him or her with another person. I'm sure a reoccurring emotion for you is that of jealousy.

Here are a few things you can try to help you deal with the jealousy your feeling from the affair:

1. Take charge of your response to jealousy

When you feel the onset of the rage of jealousy coming on, the first thing you need to do is take control of yourself. Stop, take a nice deep breath and stand or sit up straight. Keep in mind that taking actions with your aggressive feelings is a recipe for disaster and will only create more problems. Before you actually blow up, consciously choose not to act on these emotions in an inappropriate manner.

2. Ask yourself why you responded with jealousy

The natural thing to do when you feel jealous is to think about what the other person is doing to make you have this feeling. Keep in mind that you are the one who is having these feelings. No one makes you behave, think or feel a certain way except yourself. At this point its time to re-channel your focus. Take good look inside and examine exactly how you are hurting. You need to identify the feelings that are making you jealous so that you can have a conversation with your spouse regarding these feelings.

3. Communication with your spouse about your feelings

It's all too easy to blow up at your spouse when you are experiencing jealousy, but where does that really get you? Instead, try talking to your spouse about what your feeling and why you are hurting. Provide specific facts to your spouse as to why you responded emotionally the way you did. You are much more likely to get a caring response back if you don't accuse or blame but instead explain things from your angle.

Keep in mind that jealousy is normal, a basic human emotion, and a response to what you feel is a threat to your relationship. Hopefully, the above advice will help you deal with your jealousy and your efforts to heal and overcome your problems.