Your Husband Had An Affair - How To Face and Overcome Your Emotional Roadblocks To Healing

So your husband had an affair and now you feel as though you might be losing your mind. You've found out that the person who you trust and love has committed infidelity and this is a devastating blow. Your brain is overwhelmed with negativity, leaving you depressed, unhappy and emotionally exhausted.

In this article, we will look at two of the major emotions that need to be recognized and faced and what you can do to start overcoming these thoughts and begin the healing process.

1. Jealousy

After finding out your husband had an affair, experiencing jealousy is perfectly normal. Jealousy has a way of snowballing: self-doubt sets in, self-esteem lowers, and you can't help but wonder what attracted your husband to this other person and why don't you have it. Jealousy means you are reacting to the fact that your husband spent time and affection on someone else, when it should have been spent on you.

2. Uncertainty

Do you find yourself doubting everything and wondering what is real and what is not? Of course you are, because suddenly your entire world has just been rocked. Uncertainty is a huge emotion because now you are struggling to figure out what is going to happen moving forward.

How to Overcome Jealousy and Uncertainty

Method 1 - Drawing a line

Especially with jealousy, the way that you react to this feeling can easily get out of hand. The negativity and haunting images are probably plaguing you every moment of the day (and night). Maybe you're tempted to show him and go get even or just give him the old silent treatment.

Recognition of the jealousy is the first step in coping with it but it is also important that you draw the line to stop yourself from acting out on retaliation. It's going to get ugly, but victims of an affair by their husband who act on their emotions can make things seriously worse. If this happens, you will be adding a whole new set of emotions to the equation including guilt and regret.

Method 2 - Talk to someone

It really helps to have someone you can go to and just let it all out when you are faced with jealousy, uncertainly, or any other emotions you may be dealing with. Believe it or not, putting words into your thoughts will help with healing the pain and suffering you are going through. One thing to keep in mind is to give some thought to who you open up to. Family and friends may not be your best choice because they are just too close to the situation at hand. You may want to consider a counselor or clergy person. They can help the healing process while at the same time remaining neutral.

Jealousy and uncertainty are certainly one of the strongest emotions that once is faced with when finding out about their husband's affair. Hopefully the above information will help you not only recognize these emotions, but also help with dealing with them going forward.