Acceptance: An Alternative Path To Forgiveness In The Aftermath Of The Affair

Forgiveness is not an "easy pill to swallow", when you are the victim of infidelity. But, if your intentions are to remain in the marriage, harboring harsh emotions and feelings has probably become a point of stress, driven by your anger and resentment and it's interfering with your efforts to rebuild your marriage. The negative feelings and images that haunt you on a daily basis are controlling your train of thought, how you feel and how you react to anything your spouse says or does, You may have already found yourself lashing out at your spouse in uncontrollable fits of rage, leaving you and your spouse exhausted after an emotional charged argument.

Your spouse's actions have forced you to face a challenge that you can't ignore. Saving your marriage is dependent upon you finding a way past the pain and the emotional turmoil. Holding on to such pain and anger can take a toll on you, locking you into a dark world of hostility, that can consume you with thoughts of bitterness and revenge, and wither your outlook on life along with the prospect of finding peace within yourself.

You are facing a difficult time, yet - you are not alone in how you feel. There are many victims of infidelity that find it hard to forgive. But, for your sake and the sake of your marriage, it is vital that you find relief from your emotions and the negative thoughts that are creating so much anger. Although forgiveness is a way to release you from the burden of the emotional turmoil, you now carry. It is a spiritual trait that many find themselves unable to put into practice with ease. Yet, even though it is difficult for you to find forgiveness now, there is another way to gain relief along with inner peace, that will allow you to move forward in your relationship - it is by way of acceptance.

Acceptance does not require forgiveness. It, simply, paves the way for you to reconcile your feelings and thoughts with a fact you can not change - your spouse's infidelity. Since you can't return to the past to change your spouse's actions, you can, however, with acceptance you can move forward from this point on - taking your own time in coming to terms with the fact, that infidelity is now a part of the history of your marriage. This does not mean you will forget what has happened or forget the pain infidelity has caused, but it does allow you to move it to the back of your mind, where the extent of its power over you will lessen with the passage of time.

Acceptance will take time and you may have a few stumbles along the way, but it can provide you relief from the emotional anguish you now feel and allow you to begin the process of healing and the work necessary to save your marriage. With acceptance you may, eventually, find forgiveness and begin the process of rebuilding your marriage on a stronger and better foundation than ever before.