After An Affair

After an affair, a relationship may come to an end for two reasons. One is the intense anger and deep hurt caused by the act of betrayal. The second reason could be that though the couple want to get over the problem and carry on with their relationship, they find the problem to be so complicated that they don't know where to start.

After an affair, the intensity of the problems in the relationship looks like a mountain too high to climb. If you are the victim, you feel emotionally devastated. Your spouse will also suffer emotionally because of the guilt caused by the act of infidelity. These feelings create a crack in the relationship and you will find it difficult to carry on even normal communication. Sometimes, there may also be the question of dealing with the third person that has come between you two. The combined effect of these problems can be so overwhelming as to stifle your thinking.

To overcome the effect of this, you need to be composed and do the right things. The first thing to do is to establish normal communication with your partner. If you can't talk to your partner, then you can't move further. After a while, both of you will feel some normalcy returning to your relationship. You have to remind yourself that you can 't give vent to your anger if you want to survive the affair and rebuild your relationship.

You also have the responsibility to make your cheating partner feel better. This may sound very strange but the only way a relationship can remain harmonious is when both the partners feel good about themselves. This will happen only after your spouse realizes their fault and sincerely regrets it. They may or may not express it but it will happen.

In short, the process of surviving an affair has to go through several phases. During these phases, emotions will run high. It is your ability to keep emotions in check that will decide how successful your progress is. If you feel that you are too angry to control your feelings, then you need to wait for a while for your tempers to cool. It is better to avoid talking to and even meeting your spouse. This may be difficult if you both live in the same house but you should somehow make this possible. When you know that a process can happen only under certain conditions, you have to create those conditions and if you can't do it immediately, the only way is to wait and give time, the great healer a chance.