Monday, April 11, 2011

Are Cheating Men Born That Way?



What do cheating men have in common? Fundamentally, they all run the gamut of emotions and yet fail to own up to their responsibilities. They may realize that they are doing something wrong, but are able to justify it in some way or another. In fact, their ability to justify everything and to prove a case where otherwise it might not be so easy is another "skill" that they share. And they say that statisticians are able to use figures to prove anything!

Cheating men have the ability to switch off the voice of reason and listen only to temptation. In cartoons, we sometimes see a character who is tempted by one thing or another and who has an angel on one shoulder and the miniature devil on the other. The man who cheats probably has both characters in place, but simply tilts his head to listen more to the devil character.

So where does it begin to go wrong? A cheated spouse can often ask that question over and over again, as she tries to cry herself to sleep at night. It is common for the aggrieved party to feel responsible in some way or another, even if she is, essentially, not. There are many reasons why relationships go sour and some are not as obvious as others. Of course we know that monetary worries seem to be at the root of very many disturbances like this and when this happens, the cheater is just looking for pastures new, to get away from the stress of it all. The other person in the affair represents the chance to forget about all of that stress and heartache that's taking place "at home."

Fundamentally, there is no disagreement known to man that cannot be fixed through a process of communication. Even the worst world wars were eventually settled around the negotiating table. When two people do not communicate, this is often the start of problems in the marriage. Cheating men often start to go astray when they do not understand their relationship anymore, or feel distant from the spouse.

If you don't get into the habit of talking about your problems, they won't go away. If you cannot come up with a solution, jointly, make sure that you reach out to those who can help you, collectively. There cannot be a brick wall in front of your troubles, because if you leave it to fester all kinds of difficulties can and will arise. A marriage is like a commercial partnership in many respects and a lot of things have got to come together in order for it to work. By ignoring money worries or other issues, the relationship will start to break down and this is when infidelity, unfortunately, starts to thrive.

In the vast majority of cases, two people get together and agree to share their resources and their future for good and valid reasons. Consequently, something has to happen to push the train off the tracks. Cheating men aren't just born that way.



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