Monday, April 11, 2011

How Cheating Husbands Come To Terms With Their Infidelity



Are you afraid to look at yourself squarely in the mirror, let alone to look at your spouse, knowing full well that you have been unfaithful? This is a position that so many men find themselves in at some point in their married lives. Can you believe that, according to statistics, better than one in five men can be classified as cheating husbands?

In the vast majority of cases, none of this is preplanned. It is very rarely a situation where the husband decides that he is going to let his wandering eye focus on somebody else and engage in an illicit affair of some kind. In the majority of cases, these situations just materialize over time and before you know it may have developed into an untenable relationship.

As you stand there, barely able to look at yourself in the mirror, you might be wondering how you got into this situation. Moreover, you may be wondering if it is possible to unravel it all. It's common to ask yourself whether your wife knows that she has one of those cheating husbands on her hands, or whether some of your mutual friends, relatives and acquaintances are aware of the position. The more people that know, the more complicated it is of course and don't even think that you will be able to brush it all under the carpet in some way and forget about it.

This is the time to own up to your emotions and your actions. If it has advanced to such a degree and has been going on for quite a long time, you might not be able to keep it from your wife at all. If, in one of the worst case scenarios, the other party in your affair has developed feelings for you, then you can imagine that she is not going to be too pleased if you try and backtrack, either.

This is why you must expect some stormy seas ahead. You have to own up to your actions and look for forgiveness from your wife. If you try and quietly break it off with your illicit lover then this could make the situation worse and will cast you in an even poorer light.

Don't despair though, as cheating husbands can pull their relationships back from the brink, but only if they resolve to do so. You would have to identify the reasons why you strayed in the first place and make sure that they do not happen again. You are going to have to expect discomfort, anger, anguish, rebellion and a number of other unfortunate byproducts of your infidelity.

The Chinese say that the journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step. You can begin moving forward and take that initial step by turning away from the mirror right now and making plans to fix the situation. It's not going to resolve by itself, but by doing the right thing you stand a good chance of being able to emerge, at the end, with something tangible intact.



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