Monday, April 11, 2011

How You May Be Carrying Those Bad Habits From School To Become A Cheating Man



In our vocabulary, there is something particularly sinister about the word "cheat." It may hark back to our school days, when we knew full well that we were not supposed to take that crib sheet into the exam room, or peer surreptitiously over somebody's shoulder to see what the correct answer to a test was. We knew deep down inside that by cheating we were not really achieving anything and in fact, we were cheating ourselves.

While we might have left the world of examinations and tutorials behind, when we enter into the adult environment we come across a whole new sphere to tempt us to do the wrong thing. When we start to form relationships with others, these are always invariably built on trust and especially when it comes to romantic relationship between two people. Yet again we can be tempted, although in a different way. We could soon come to realize that there are many distractions and many temptations and if we are not careful, we will take on another unwelcome title - that of cheating man.

When two people get together with a view of sharing their lives and ultimately being monogamous, they are indeed making some big commitments. This is not a decision to be taken lightly, as it means that you cannot have a wandering eye and must be there at all times for your partner and vice versa. We know what the marriage vow says and some of us end up being terrified by it - till death do us part.

As a husband or partner, do you ultimately want to be known as a cheating man? But there again, do any of us really think about that question when we start to fall victim to the temptress? Life can be very complex, we can be presented with so many different options and opportunities on a daily basis. We interact with very many people of the opposite sex, day in and day out, whether it's someone who we meet at the checkout register in the supermarket, or somebody who sits in a nearby cubicle at the office.

Some may ask, what's the difference between a relationship and a good friendship? This is where that line must be drawn. There are varying degrees of friendship as we know and many people have found, to their regret that they were unable to draw that line and suddenly found that that special "friendship" with a lady at work had developed into something else.

You have to be constantly on guard to fend off many of the subtle temptations that will come along. None of us are perfect, by any means. In truth, there are very few of us who may not have taken a second glance at someone, even though we are in a committed relationship. The difference is being able to understand what is going on and being very clear about the commitments that you have made.

Remember that in the examination room of life, infidelity will get you a D.



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